亲爱的外婆

好久没blog了，真愧对大家。

这两个星期一连串的事情忙不过来，先是红星大奖，谢谢大家那么支持，真的，虽然忙，我还是抽空上来看你们的留言。

每次看完心里都会暖烘烘的…..这股力量永远是我最大的动力。

上个星期我外婆离世了，我回家去看她。因为走得很突然，来不及见她最后一面……也为走得突然所以也没有很痛苦。这是唯一让我们释怀的地方。

大家都回来了，阿姨舅舅，表弟妹们……外婆放在外公家里。那么多年后，她终于都回到她深爱人的家……

外公外婆离婚有30多40年了，虽然大家心里都清楚，外婆心里一直爱着外公。

现在她把这份爱带进天堂去了。

丧礼是基督教式的，棺木旁摆了花圈，很多人来吊丧。妈妈以前跟我说过外婆虽然凶，可是人缘非常好，朋友很多。以前过年年三十晚家里人不多，可是团圆饭外婆却准备两桌子的菜。外婆说来我们家餐馆吃饭的单身汉孤儿寡母那么多，新年没开店他们的两餐没着落，很可怜的。所以每年新年家里都很热闹。

小时候，家里开餐馆，外婆是厨房的主管，她不管别人的异样眼光请了一个智障儿在店里帮忙，我们叫他胖子，他很笨，常常做错事，外婆就骂他打他，不过只要有要吃的外婆一定会叫我们留一点给他。胖子的妈妈是个哑巴，有时胖子不见了，外婆会陪着胖子的哑巴妈妈一起去找他。外婆就是这样一位大情大性的人。

外婆后来得了柏金遜症，说话也不变得不清楚，加上她不爱戴假牙，有时我们要玩词句填充来拼凑她说的话。我们几个顽皮的表弟妹就会拿这个来作弄她开玩笑。

阿姨在丧礼上说了很感动的话，她说：“上帝不能亲自为每一个孩子抹眼泪，所以他给每个孩子一位妈妈来代替他。我的母亲是一位坚强的妈妈，她抹去我们的眼泪，抚养我们长大……”

妈妈说：“子欲养而亲不在…….

三舅是外婆最疼的小儿子，他也是照顾外婆最劳累的一个。在丧礼上他表现得最坚强，不过却看见他偷偷擦眼泪。

我听妈咪说过，外婆在生下三舅的那一天，刚好是马来西亚大选日，外婆生完了孩子还走路去投票。因为她坚强乐观所以朋友很多。

丧礼胖子回来帮忙，我已经有好多年没看见他了，他也老了很多。不过外婆应该会高兴那么多人来看她。

So long didn’t blog already..

Had been very busy these 2 weeks, first was the star awards, thank you everyone for your support! really! although I had been busy, I still find time to read the comments you all left for me. Each time after reading the comments, I feel so touched and warm.

My grandmother passed away last week, I made a trip back to my hometown and her death is so sudden, I didn’t manage to see her for a last time =(

Everybody – aunties, uncles and cousins came back. Grandmother’s tablet is placed at grandfather’s house, she can finally go back to her most loved home.

My grandparents had been separated for 30 odd years but all of us know well enough that grandma still loves grandpa.

The funeral is Christianity –like, flower wreaths were placed around the coffin and many came to offer condolences. My mom used to tell me that grandma though fierce but is friendly. During reunion dinner, she will prepare dishes for 2 tables for bachelors orphans widowed mothers who come to the restaurant so every year during this time, it is crowded at home.

My grandmother was a kitchen chef in our restaurant and she employed a disabled to help out at the shop. We all called him fatty. He is fat, stupid, always doing wrong things and get scolded and beaten by ah ma. Fattty’s mom is a mute, sometimes when he went missing, ah ma and his mother will go around searching for him.

Ah ma was down with Bai Jinxun sickness. She couldn’t speak clearly and disliked wearing dentures, so we these few naughty cousins like to make fun of her.

Aunty said touching words at the funeral. She said “God cannot personally wipe the tear for each child, therefore he gives each child mother to replace him, My mother is a strong mother, she wipes our tear, fosters us to grow up……”

3^rd uncle is my ah ma’s most doted son, he is also the one who take care of ah ma the most. At the funeral, he appeared to be strong but in fact, he was wiping his tears secretly.

My mom told me that the day ah ma gave birth to my 3^rd uncle, it was also Malaysian election date. Ah ma delivered the baby and walked to the venue to place her vote.

Fatty was at the funeral to help out. I have not seen him for many days. He has aged…  My ah ma will be great to see so many people sending her the last journey.

 

亲爱的外婆，您在主的身旁安息，不用挂念我们，我们会好好的，乖乖的，幸福的生活下去……

To my beloved grandmother, please rest in peace in heaven, don’t worry for us, we will be good, obedient and live happily……